A Little Melancholy A Little Fun at Easter

easter bunnies

As we strolled through the grocery store isles filled with pink plastic nesting, coloured baskets, lovely spring flowers and Easter eggs I was overcome with a sudden melancholy.

I miss having my kids around most days but special days and seasons are a bit harder.  At Christmas I manage to steal a few hours with my grandchildren so that takes the edge off but at Easter there isn’t the same sort of distraction.

I used to love the squeals and jostle of Easter morning as my children followed a long line of clues which lead them through the house.  I would spend hours the night before writing little poems on scraps of paper and placing them, along with those little chocolate eggs, around the house.  Each poem led to another and finally to a bigger chunk of chocolate with some spring toys like skipping ropes, Frisbees and new socks.  We had a special bonus a few years when one daughter’s birthday fell on Easter.  That meant bunny cakes and extra joy to go with the scalloped potatoes and ham which had become traditional for the day.

As I ponder the reason for the sadness I note that while I certainly miss my children, what I really miss is the fun.  I wonder how as adults, we so easily abandon fun.  Somehow along the line, I have forgotten how to make fun for myself.

It is easy to make fun for others.  When I do training I take a whole trunk full of fun with me.  They get crazy rubber toys, play dough, silly glasses, things to colour, and mustaches.  It lightens the hours, brightens the mood of difficult topics, and makes learning fun.

When it comes to my own life though there isn’t much fun any more.  Somehow it got very serious and very busy.  I’ve never been much of a party type so that doesn’t happen.

So now I’m wondering how adults inject fun into their lives.  What does it look like for you?


About Peggy Guiler

You just never know what show up on my blog. As the name implies it is about the stuff of life just like Spilt Milk. Everyday events spark thought and contemplation. Special events in the community, the country or the world may strike a cord and get me talking. Sometimes it's about people in my life or circumstances, sometimes about my garden, sometimes about a book or a political issue. Always it's about something I am passionate about. In my business, River of Hope Enterprises (www.riverofhopeenterprises.com), I work as an "Certified Coach" (International Coach Federation), a trainer, consultant and speaker. and as a spiritual director. I also drive a school bus to keep the wolf from the door while I build my business. I love the kids on the bus (most of the time). My family is grown and I have three grandkids who thrill my heart but I don't get to see any of them very often. Circumstances of life have made "family" difficult. My son died by suicide at age 16 in 2000 and the strain on our family relationships since has been huge. Mental health is a field where I worked for almost 22 years and where I still do some consulting and training. That combined with my own battle with depression and my son's death weave together to form some of my greatest soap box items: suicide intervention, suicide bereavement and peer support in mental health are right on the top of my list. Social justice is an underlying passion. Keeping the wolf from the door as a single parent was full-time work and my career path as a journalists was augmented with cleaning contracts, cooking, retail clerk, and bartending. I have known hard work and am grateful for the experience and perspective it has given me. A firmly grounded faith and a passion for learning has now taken me toward a new field as a Spiritual Director and I am soon adding to that a license to marry people. As I move toward retirement I am very aware that I have to keep working so I chose to do things which will meet my modest financial needs and also my love of supporting people in their life journey. Woven into all of this is my love of writing. Trained as a Journalist, and having worked in the field as a freelance news writer for many years, I have a great love for writing. This blog is a new beginning for me. As I hone my skills and begin to form a daily discipline of writing I hope it will lead to more writing in the future.
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