What Do You Mean You Didn’t Use the Good China for Company?

Keep it simpleI learned something this week that I really needed to know.  That was how to have company without getting out the good china.

Company for meals has always been a big deal in my family.  The china and crystal came out along with the good linen, silver and the best of food.  It is a wonderful tradition and certainly has it’s place.  It is almost criminal to let china go to waste in the cupboard and I use it more often now than I have in the past.

There are times though when it really isn’t necessary and my friend Eleanor has taught me a valuable lesson.  I have always found myself a little hesitant to invite guests, often because it meant so much work, worry and preparation.  When Eleanor invited me for lunch a few weeks ago we had a delightful time and she pointed out to me how very easy it was.  All we had was soup and cheese and crackers.  I can’t tell you what the china was like but I do know we had great homemade beef soup and lots of stimulating conversation.

This week when I reciprocated I also made soup,(a the kind we love and hoped others would too.)  I didn’t get out the good china because that would be not only be a bit pretentious but also more work.  It takes a little more care in the washing and I didn’t want company to feel they needed to wash dishes.  Just throw them in the dishwasher and be done with it.

This sort of thing is a bit hard for me.  I’m one of those “If you can’t do it right, don’t do it all” sort of people.  Breaking down those walls of needing to do the best and just allowing for some ordinary stuff was a major breakthrough.

Besides teaching me a lesson about “Keeping it Simple” I also had a nice time with my company.  Next time it won’t be nearly so hard to invite someone for a meal or even just a snack.


About Peggy Guiler

You just never know what show up on my blog. As the name implies it is about the stuff of life just like Spilt Milk. Everyday events spark thought and contemplation. Special events in the community, the country or the world may strike a cord and get me talking. Sometimes it's about people in my life or circumstances, sometimes about my garden, sometimes about a book or a political issue. Always it's about something I am passionate about. In my business, River of Hope Enterprises (www.riverofhopeenterprises.com), I work as an "Certified Coach" (International Coach Federation), a trainer, consultant and speaker. and as a spiritual director. I also drive a school bus to keep the wolf from the door while I build my business. I love the kids on the bus (most of the time). My family is grown and I have three grandkids who thrill my heart but I don't get to see any of them very often. Circumstances of life have made "family" difficult. My son died by suicide at age 16 in 2000 and the strain on our family relationships since has been huge. Mental health is a field where I worked for almost 22 years and where I still do some consulting and training. That combined with my own battle with depression and my son's death weave together to form some of my greatest soap box items: suicide intervention, suicide bereavement and peer support in mental health are right on the top of my list. Social justice is an underlying passion. Keeping the wolf from the door as a single parent was full-time work and my career path as a journalists was augmented with cleaning contracts, cooking, retail clerk, and bartending. I have known hard work and am grateful for the experience and perspective it has given me. A firmly grounded faith and a passion for learning has now taken me toward a new field as a Spiritual Director and I am soon adding to that a license to marry people. As I move toward retirement I am very aware that I have to keep working so I chose to do things which will meet my modest financial needs and also my love of supporting people in their life journey. Woven into all of this is my love of writing. Trained as a Journalist, and having worked in the field as a freelance news writer for many years, I have a great love for writing. This blog is a new beginning for me. As I hone my skills and begin to form a daily discipline of writing I hope it will lead to more writing in the future.
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