Blog or Friends – Friends Win

friends-by-your-sideA few months ago I made a commitment to myself that I would write a blog every weekday and I’ve kept it.  I’m glad of that.  It is a good exercise for me to make myself write something that can be critiqued each day.  It pushes me to do a better job and has begun to teach me to look for stories in everything I do throughout the day.  I need discipline in my life and believe we all do and there is a real value in accountability.  The blog has produced accountability and discipline for me.

Tonight though, I’m writing this at 12:30 instead of 8:30 because I slipped out “for a few minutes” to take something I had to a friend who needed it.  I had not planned on being long.  I was just going to pop in, say hello and then leave but friendship won the match between all the stuff I had to do and the need I have to feel human for a little while.

True friends are the ones who can tell you the truth about yourself but leave you feeling like your self is better when they are done telling you the truth.  They don’t always tell you what you want to hear but they always tell you what you need to hear.  Friends know how to take the blubbering bundle of battered beliefs, put them in a package of love and give it back to you in a way that fills your heart and makes you believe you are not a waste of air and time.

And so the blog is short but my heart is full and even if it is just for a moment, I have been allowed to be who I am and not be ashamed of that.  Thanks to my friend.


About Peggy Guiler

You just never know what show up on my blog. As the name implies it is about the stuff of life just like Spilt Milk. Everyday events spark thought and contemplation. Special events in the community, the country or the world may strike a cord and get me talking. Sometimes it's about people in my life or circumstances, sometimes about my garden, sometimes about a book or a political issue. Always it's about something I am passionate about. In my business, River of Hope Enterprises (, I work as an "Certified Coach" (International Coach Federation), a trainer, consultant and speaker. and as a spiritual director. I also drive a school bus to keep the wolf from the door while I build my business. I love the kids on the bus (most of the time). My family is grown and I have three grandkids who thrill my heart but I don't get to see any of them very often. Circumstances of life have made "family" difficult. My son died by suicide at age 16 in 2000 and the strain on our family relationships since has been huge. Mental health is a field where I worked for almost 22 years and where I still do some consulting and training. That combined with my own battle with depression and my son's death weave together to form some of my greatest soap box items: suicide intervention, suicide bereavement and peer support in mental health are right on the top of my list. Social justice is an underlying passion. Keeping the wolf from the door as a single parent was full-time work and my career path as a journalists was augmented with cleaning contracts, cooking, retail clerk, and bartending. I have known hard work and am grateful for the experience and perspective it has given me. A firmly grounded faith and a passion for learning has now taken me toward a new field as a Spiritual Director and I am soon adding to that a license to marry people. As I move toward retirement I am very aware that I have to keep working so I chose to do things which will meet my modest financial needs and also my love of supporting people in their life journey. Woven into all of this is my love of writing. Trained as a Journalist, and having worked in the field as a freelance news writer for many years, I have a great love for writing. This blog is a new beginning for me. As I hone my skills and begin to form a daily discipline of writing I hope it will lead to more writing in the future.
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