The Perennial Gardener – And Coach

Spring in the Garden 2015A group of coaches and I are doing some brush up work with one of our mentor/teachers and this week she asked us to think of our coaching style in terms of a metaphor.  This is the one I came up with.

I believe I am a perennial gardener in life and in coaching .

I am not a gardener who requires perfection however.  I am a relaxed gardener.  I allow the weeds to pop up for a while until I can be sure they are not going to be lovely plants.

I notice the weeds and the real plants grow in the same places so it’s not wise to go pulling everything out too soon.  It is important to pull weeds when the ground is wet rather than dry.  Pulling them in the dry weather breaks them off and leaves the root.

I am also in tune to the seasons of the garden and of life and have a great deal of experience with even the dormant times.  I love balance in the garden and try to find ways to get plants which flower at different times so there is always something to look forward to.  I am patient and wait for things to bloom in their time.

I also recognize the need to get your hands dirty and the value of manure.  I know when things need to be thinned out.

One of my favourite things to do is to go into other people’s gardens and find things they want thinned out so I can add some new flavour to my garden.  That helps me to create a garden which has character and history.

What is a metaphor for what you do?


About Peggy Guiler

You just never know what show up on my blog. As the name implies it is about the stuff of life just like Spilt Milk. Everyday events spark thought and contemplation. Special events in the community, the country or the world may strike a cord and get me talking. Sometimes it's about people in my life or circumstances, sometimes about my garden, sometimes about a book or a political issue. Always it's about something I am passionate about. In my business, River of Hope Enterprises (, I work as an "Certified Coach" (International Coach Federation), a trainer, consultant and speaker. and as a spiritual director. I also drive a school bus to keep the wolf from the door while I build my business. I love the kids on the bus (most of the time). My family is grown and I have three grandkids who thrill my heart but I don't get to see any of them very often. Circumstances of life have made "family" difficult. My son died by suicide at age 16 in 2000 and the strain on our family relationships since has been huge. Mental health is a field where I worked for almost 22 years and where I still do some consulting and training. That combined with my own battle with depression and my son's death weave together to form some of my greatest soap box items: suicide intervention, suicide bereavement and peer support in mental health are right on the top of my list. Social justice is an underlying passion. Keeping the wolf from the door as a single parent was full-time work and my career path as a journalists was augmented with cleaning contracts, cooking, retail clerk, and bartending. I have known hard work and am grateful for the experience and perspective it has given me. A firmly grounded faith and a passion for learning has now taken me toward a new field as a Spiritual Director and I am soon adding to that a license to marry people. As I move toward retirement I am very aware that I have to keep working so I chose to do things which will meet my modest financial needs and also my love of supporting people in their life journey. Woven into all of this is my love of writing. Trained as a Journalist, and having worked in the field as a freelance news writer for many years, I have a great love for writing. This blog is a new beginning for me. As I hone my skills and begin to form a daily discipline of writing I hope it will lead to more writing in the future.
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