To Facebook or Not to Facebook – 12 Things to Help Answer the Question

social mediaI’ve run across a couple of people in the last day who were fed up with social media.

It is understandable that people get annoyed with the “Facebook” thing.  There are people who are ignorant and say stupid and cruel things, there are people who post way too much drivel and who get all riled up about political issues.  Maybe you have seen enough cute cats and dogs to last you a lifetime or maybe you got caught in a scam and you don’t ever want to touch the app on your phone again.

All of this is legitimate reasoning for wanting to quit but I would first ask you to consider some things.

  1. Are there people on there who you like and care about who otherwise would not have much opportunity to be part of your life – or you of theirs?  Keep them.
  2. Are there people you have liked just because you felt guilty about not liking them?  Get rid of them..
  3. Are there people who post absolutely nothing that is of interest to you? Get rid of them.
  4. Are there news feeds that you used to like but now don’t get much out of?  Get rid of them.
  5. When you blow off about an issue are you being fair and knowledgeable or just ranting about something you really don’t know much about?  Try limiting yourself to discussions that you are knowledgeable about.  Otherwise just put it in the FYI file.
  6. Do you really understand the media you are using?  Do you understand how it works and what the privacy options are?  Do you know what people see when you post something?  Get some understanding on how it works and work it smart.
  7. Rather than just shut people down explain to them nicely why you don’t like what they are posting.  Maybe they haven’t given it much thought and just post things that other post because they don’t entirely understand the media either.
  8. Be careful about what you post.  It’s sort of like conversations in the grocery store.  You don’t need to bleed on the page or tell everyone the intimate details about your life.  First of all it’s probably no one’s business and secondly there is a good chance that most people don’t really care.
  9. Learn to scroll.  You don’t need to look at everything.  There are some things you know you won’t want to see but you still want those people on your list.  Just ignore it.
  10. Ignore the things that waste time like hours of video about puppies.  The algorithm will begin to recognize you don’t like them and you won’t see them any more.  (Back to knowing how it works.)
  11. Be smart with your time and courteous with use of social media.  Self discipline is a must.  Set aside times of day when you look at it and  ignore it the rest of the time.  Don’t ignore the people you love who are sitting with you, to have a half hearted conversation with someone you barely know.
  12. Do you get more out of social media than you would lose by giving it up.  For me that is the kicker.  I love meeting with people who otherwise would not be part of my life.  I’ve renewed childhood acquaintances and it’s priceless.  I get to watch people who’s lives I’ve touched and who’s lives have touched mine without being intrusive.  I get to send fun stuff in closed groups and share laughter and tears with people who really care.  I get to ask for prayer and offer prayer to others who need it.  I share in history lessons on my home town page.  I usually get one good laugh a day and that makes it all worth while.

About Peggy Guiler

You just never know what show up on my blog. As the name implies it is about the stuff of life just like Spilt Milk. Everyday events spark thought and contemplation. Special events in the community, the country or the world may strike a cord and get me talking. Sometimes it's about people in my life or circumstances, sometimes about my garden, sometimes about a book or a political issue. Always it's about something I am passionate about. In my business, River of Hope Enterprises (, I work as an "Certified Coach" (International Coach Federation), a trainer, consultant and speaker. and as a spiritual director. I also drive a school bus to keep the wolf from the door while I build my business. I love the kids on the bus (most of the time). My family is grown and I have three grandkids who thrill my heart but I don't get to see any of them very often. Circumstances of life have made "family" difficult. My son died by suicide at age 16 in 2000 and the strain on our family relationships since has been huge. Mental health is a field where I worked for almost 22 years and where I still do some consulting and training. That combined with my own battle with depression and my son's death weave together to form some of my greatest soap box items: suicide intervention, suicide bereavement and peer support in mental health are right on the top of my list. Social justice is an underlying passion. Keeping the wolf from the door as a single parent was full-time work and my career path as a journalists was augmented with cleaning contracts, cooking, retail clerk, and bartending. I have known hard work and am grateful for the experience and perspective it has given me. A firmly grounded faith and a passion for learning has now taken me toward a new field as a Spiritual Director and I am soon adding to that a license to marry people. As I move toward retirement I am very aware that I have to keep working so I chose to do things which will meet my modest financial needs and also my love of supporting people in their life journey. Woven into all of this is my love of writing. Trained as a Journalist, and having worked in the field as a freelance news writer for many years, I have a great love for writing. This blog is a new beginning for me. As I hone my skills and begin to form a daily discipline of writing I hope it will lead to more writing in the future.
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