Childhood Friend Found

21701462_axiagty9_cYesterday I posted some pictures to a local Facebook group.  The photos were of two friends and their mother.  These friends died a while back and their Mom recently.  I thought some of the locals would enjoy the stroll down memory lane with me.

Discussion, condolences and lots of good memories were shared.  Among the many notices came a private message from someone who had lived in our neighbourhood when we were children but who had suddenly disappeared from our lives over 55 years ago.

It is strange the turns our lives take.  As children we have no control over what happens when we have to move for one reason or another.

This woman who contacted me, then a child, lived in a house across the street from us.  I recall her parents didn’t get along well and at some point her Dad left them to fend for themselves.  Soon after, her mother became ill and we watched as she became weaker and weaker.  I recall my Mom sending over meals and offering to get things at the grocery store.  Finally the woman died and while I’m sure it was very traumatic for my young friend it all just seemed to happen without much fanfare.  As children we didn’t have input and were likely not privy to all the circumstances.  One day they lived across the road and in flash my friend was gone, the house was for sale and nothing was to be heard of her again.

There was a girl she was close to in her class at school.  She had stayed in touch with her so from time to time we received updates but eventually lost touch with her as well.

Today I suddenly got a message on Facebook from someone I don’t know but it only took a short explanation to have the memories come flooding back and a lost friendship was being rekindled after almost six decades.

I will be anxious to find out more about what actually happened to her.


About Peggy Guiler

You just never know what show up on my blog. As the name implies it is about the stuff of life just like Spilt Milk. Everyday events spark thought and contemplation. Special events in the community, the country or the world may strike a cord and get me talking. Sometimes it's about people in my life or circumstances, sometimes about my garden, sometimes about a book or a political issue. Always it's about something I am passionate about. In my business, River of Hope Enterprises (, I work as an "Certified Coach" (International Coach Federation), a trainer, consultant and speaker. and as a spiritual director. I also drive a school bus to keep the wolf from the door while I build my business. I love the kids on the bus (most of the time). My family is grown and I have three grandkids who thrill my heart but I don't get to see any of them very often. Circumstances of life have made "family" difficult. My son died by suicide at age 16 in 2000 and the strain on our family relationships since has been huge. Mental health is a field where I worked for almost 22 years and where I still do some consulting and training. That combined with my own battle with depression and my son's death weave together to form some of my greatest soap box items: suicide intervention, suicide bereavement and peer support in mental health are right on the top of my list. Social justice is an underlying passion. Keeping the wolf from the door as a single parent was full-time work and my career path as a journalists was augmented with cleaning contracts, cooking, retail clerk, and bartending. I have known hard work and am grateful for the experience and perspective it has given me. A firmly grounded faith and a passion for learning has now taken me toward a new field as a Spiritual Director and I am soon adding to that a license to marry people. As I move toward retirement I am very aware that I have to keep working so I chose to do things which will meet my modest financial needs and also my love of supporting people in their life journey. Woven into all of this is my love of writing. Trained as a Journalist, and having worked in the field as a freelance news writer for many years, I have a great love for writing. This blog is a new beginning for me. As I hone my skills and begin to form a daily discipline of writing I hope it will lead to more writing in the future.
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2 Responses to Childhood Friend Found

  1. Kerry Wamsley says:

    Love reading your Blog not even sure what a blog is but the way you write or maybe it’s the material you write about that just touches my soul. I read somewhere about not knowing the history of Port Dover but it’s not the historical facts or pictures of Dover it’s the personalised stories that really is the heart of Dover. I think that’s what makes your writing so special/

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