Light a Candle


Bryan Delahunt Age 16


Raye Ellen (Watkinson) Seip Age 47


More people die by suicide than in traffic accidents yet it remains a subject which is hidden, forbidden, avoided and misunderstood.  4000 people in Canada this year.  That is why organizations around the world today join forces to bring awareness and encourage conversation.  Today, September 10th, is World Suicide Prevention Day.

I have very personal reasons for taking this subject to heart.  Their names are Bryan and Raye Ellen.  Bryan was my 16 year old son.  Raye Ellen was my 47 year old, life long friend.  Both died by suicide.  Neither should have died or ever had to suffer the way they did.  None of us who are left behind should have to endure such pain.

I encourage you to find out all you can.  Learn from people who know, not from gossip and speculation.  Don’t be in the dark about suicide any more.  Reach through the darkness if you need help to prevent you from suicide.

Talk to people who you think may be thinking about suicide.  Ask if they are considering suicide.  Don’t ask if they are thinking about “hurting themselves” because when you are suicidal, death seems like a place where hurt stops.

If you don’t know what to do to help someone, ASK someone who does.  Call a Distress Centre or even the police.   I would rather have some angry with me for life for calling in help than not have them alive to be angry.

Take the time to learn more.  Some places you can look for help:

Light a Candlecandle


About Peggy Guiler

You just never know what show up on my blog. As the name implies it is about the stuff of life just like Spilt Milk. Everyday events spark thought and contemplation. Special events in the community, the country or the world may strike a cord and get me talking. Sometimes it's about people in my life or circumstances, sometimes about my garden, sometimes about a book or a political issue. Always it's about something I am passionate about. In my business, River of Hope Enterprises (, I work as an "Certified Coach" (International Coach Federation), a trainer, consultant and speaker. and as a spiritual director. I also drive a school bus to keep the wolf from the door while I build my business. I love the kids on the bus (most of the time). My family is grown and I have three grandkids who thrill my heart but I don't get to see any of them very often. Circumstances of life have made "family" difficult. My son died by suicide at age 16 in 2000 and the strain on our family relationships since has been huge. Mental health is a field where I worked for almost 22 years and where I still do some consulting and training. That combined with my own battle with depression and my son's death weave together to form some of my greatest soap box items: suicide intervention, suicide bereavement and peer support in mental health are right on the top of my list. Social justice is an underlying passion. Keeping the wolf from the door as a single parent was full-time work and my career path as a journalists was augmented with cleaning contracts, cooking, retail clerk, and bartending. I have known hard work and am grateful for the experience and perspective it has given me. A firmly grounded faith and a passion for learning has now taken me toward a new field as a Spiritual Director and I am soon adding to that a license to marry people. As I move toward retirement I am very aware that I have to keep working so I chose to do things which will meet my modest financial needs and also my love of supporting people in their life journey. Woven into all of this is my love of writing. Trained as a Journalist, and having worked in the field as a freelance news writer for many years, I have a great love for writing. This blog is a new beginning for me. As I hone my skills and begin to form a daily discipline of writing I hope it will lead to more writing in the future.
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One Response to Light a Candle

  1. Joanna Lynn says:

    I feel your pain. My husband took his life almost six years ago. He had lived a double life and didn’t want to face the consequences of his actions. But, it is never the right choice. Thanks for writing about it.

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