Here I go again. Off to Kingston this coming week to do some peer support training which is my absolute favourite thing in the world to do (besides hug my daughter and grandchildren). It is when I get to practice being a little less of a nasty nine and become the thriving three.
“What in the world is she talking about?” you say.
Well its all about the Ennegram, which is a personality type system used in the circles I’m travelling in these days. It is likely one of the older such systems and is used more for a system of self identification and self improvement than it is a tool for the workplace to categorize, or even eliminate workers as some personality tools do.
I was introduced to it almost two years ago and it took me a while to get into it but now I am increasingly seeing it’s benefits.
One of the things it supports is the integration of your personality so you become more well rounded and enhance the qualities which are already present with some complimentary qualities in another type with which you are paired.
I won’t even try to explain the whole thing but the long and the short of it for me is that I am a nine and I need to build on some of the qualities of the three. Nine’s are known as peacemakers but the unfortunate thing about that is that we are sometimes seen as wishy washy and can tend to be a bit withdrawn and not very assertive and have a tendency not to get things finished. Ask my crochet basket about that one.
The personality type we are to try to integrate is the three which is the Achiever. They are, energetic, optimistic, self-assured and goal oriented. When I do peer support training that is me and it is a me I really like. I often say that something in me changes when I do this training. It’s almost like a different person emerges from my often depressed and non-confident self.
In my journey over the past few years I have discovered a few tools which are helpful in developing into the person I want to be. This is one which is becoming increasingly helpful to me. It is also one which is widely used in Spiritual Direction. The more I learn about it the better I like it.
Another is the Examine and now I’m learning about the Ignatian Examine but that is for another day.