Groundhogs, Orchids and Precious Little Girls

Orchid Feb 2 2016

We wait with great anticipation for spring and hold dearly the things which bring us hope that it will arrive soon. We live waiting for the beauty of life to show itself through the dirt and difficulties of the winters of our lives.   Today it is about groundhogs and this wonderful orchid in the sun room but mostly it is about the little girl who needed someone to talk today and I was given the gift of being there for her.

Where and when I met her is of little matter but we talked about things that were bothering her.  She had gotten in some trouble at school and was being a little belligerent about it.

She spilled her story of bullies and anger and then we talked about why people try to make other people feel badly.  She agreed that maybe they were picking on her because they didn’t have a very good life and they might feel badly about themselves.

We also talked about learning to take a deep breath and perhaps finding a song to sing when she is angry because it would make her breath and it’s also hard to be angry when you sing.  She thought those were good ideas.

Somewhere along the line she figured out some strategies about how to talk to the folks at home about the trouble she had been in during the day.  The note she had been refusing to take into the house went with her along with a new hope there would be no trouble about it, just discussion.

There was a point during our conversation that she told me she had been so angry once earlier this year that she thought about killing herself.  I begged her to promise me she wouldn’t do that ever and to seek out the people who care about her when she felt like that.  There was a blank look on her face and I said, “I care about you.  In fact you are precious to me.”  She looked at me with a little tear welling up in her eye and said, “Really?  You think I’m precious?”

I assured her I did and she went off to her destination with a skip in her step.

Thanks to the divine circumstances which gave me this opportunity today.  Perhaps one child will grow up to believe in herself because of me.


About Peggy Guiler

You just never know what show up on my blog. As the name implies it is about the stuff of life just like Spilt Milk. Everyday events spark thought and contemplation. Special events in the community, the country or the world may strike a cord and get me talking. Sometimes it's about people in my life or circumstances, sometimes about my garden, sometimes about a book or a political issue. Always it's about something I am passionate about. In my business, River of Hope Enterprises (, I work as an "Certified Coach" (International Coach Federation), a trainer, consultant and speaker. and as a spiritual director. I also drive a school bus to keep the wolf from the door while I build my business. I love the kids on the bus (most of the time). My family is grown and I have three grandkids who thrill my heart but I don't get to see any of them very often. Circumstances of life have made "family" difficult. My son died by suicide at age 16 in 2000 and the strain on our family relationships since has been huge. Mental health is a field where I worked for almost 22 years and where I still do some consulting and training. That combined with my own battle with depression and my son's death weave together to form some of my greatest soap box items: suicide intervention, suicide bereavement and peer support in mental health are right on the top of my list. Social justice is an underlying passion. Keeping the wolf from the door as a single parent was full-time work and my career path as a journalists was augmented with cleaning contracts, cooking, retail clerk, and bartending. I have known hard work and am grateful for the experience and perspective it has given me. A firmly grounded faith and a passion for learning has now taken me toward a new field as a Spiritual Director and I am soon adding to that a license to marry people. As I move toward retirement I am very aware that I have to keep working so I chose to do things which will meet my modest financial needs and also my love of supporting people in their life journey. Woven into all of this is my love of writing. Trained as a Journalist, and having worked in the field as a freelance news writer for many years, I have a great love for writing. This blog is a new beginning for me. As I hone my skills and begin to form a daily discipline of writing I hope it will lead to more writing in the future.
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