What Else Didn’t They Tell Me…I

keep-calm-you-re-getting-old-4…about getting old?

Right up front I have to say I don’t mind for a minute growing older.  I’m not ready to kick off by a long shot and even the nasty things that come with age are a welcome reprieve from the other alternative at this point.  The thing is that today I thought I was going blind but the optometrist assured me the spots before my eyes and the strange flashing light on the edge of my eye is a natural part of the ageing process.

I sighed a huge sigh of relief when I found out I wasn’t going blind and that the separation of fluid in my eye (not the medical term) is part of a natural process but by the time I got home I was wondering what would be next.  Sore muscles, and deteriorating bone and muscle mass I knew about.  The grey hair and wrinkles can be remedied with good products and a good hairdresser but what are the other things they aren’t telling me.

It reminds me a bit of other stages of life.  When they told me at 10 about periods there were some things no one mentioned. I won’t go into details but I was really surprised about cramps and hair in strange places.  Then came the menopause stage.  Yes, I knew about hot flashes but no one mentioned I wouldn’t have a decent night of sleep for 10 years or anything about the crazy mood swings.

Now this.  What are we to expect next.  Any good doctor will tell you they don’t like to give the patient too much information about medication side effects because the patient might become a bit paranoid and perhaps even develop hypochondria and imagine the side effects.  Maybe they don’t tell us because they don’t want us to worry too much or develop hysterical symptoms.

Well, I’m thinking now that a well worded but detailed booklet about the physical and emotional accompaniments of each of life’s stages could be an award winner.  I want to know what else might be coming at me so I don’t panic unnecessarily like I did when I got the floaty things in my eyes.

Perhaps you are a little ahead of me can help with the compilation of this life manual. Maybe we can include a chapter on how to handle adult children.  They didn’t tell me that part either.



About Peggy Guiler

You just never know what show up on my blog. As the name implies it is about the stuff of life just like Spilt Milk. Everyday events spark thought and contemplation. Special events in the community, the country or the world may strike a cord and get me talking. Sometimes it's about people in my life or circumstances, sometimes about my garden, sometimes about a book or a political issue. Always it's about something I am passionate about. In my business, River of Hope Enterprises (www.riverofhopeenterprises.com), I work as an "Certified Coach" (International Coach Federation), a trainer, consultant and speaker. and as a spiritual director. I also drive a school bus to keep the wolf from the door while I build my business. I love the kids on the bus (most of the time). My family is grown and I have three grandkids who thrill my heart but I don't get to see any of them very often. Circumstances of life have made "family" difficult. My son died by suicide at age 16 in 2000 and the strain on our family relationships since has been huge. Mental health is a field where I worked for almost 22 years and where I still do some consulting and training. That combined with my own battle with depression and my son's death weave together to form some of my greatest soap box items: suicide intervention, suicide bereavement and peer support in mental health are right on the top of my list. Social justice is an underlying passion. Keeping the wolf from the door as a single parent was full-time work and my career path as a journalists was augmented with cleaning contracts, cooking, retail clerk, and bartending. I have known hard work and am grateful for the experience and perspective it has given me. A firmly grounded faith and a passion for learning has now taken me toward a new field as a Spiritual Director and I am soon adding to that a license to marry people. As I move toward retirement I am very aware that I have to keep working so I chose to do things which will meet my modest financial needs and also my love of supporting people in their life journey. Woven into all of this is my love of writing. Trained as a Journalist, and having worked in the field as a freelance news writer for many years, I have a great love for writing. This blog is a new beginning for me. As I hone my skills and begin to form a daily discipline of writing I hope it will lead to more writing in the future.
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