A Moms First Day Off

moms-day-offI had a little giggle the other day when I saw a young Mum post on Facebook that her littlest one was going to school for the first time today and she wanted ideas about what to do with her day off.

She explained her husband would be at work, she didn’t have to be in her store because she is closed on Monday and the youngest of her children would be in school for the first time.

The giggle I had was because I knew she really didn’t have the day off.  She actually only has seven hours of the day off and even then she won’t be able to go anywhere without her cell phone in case someone needs her.

She, like many other young working women who are raising children, doesn’t get much time to herself.  Because of the ages of her children she likely hasn’t had a day off since her oldest was born which means she has been working 24/7 for about 9 years without a break. Murder sentences are shorter than that and you get to watch TV and don’t have to cook in jail.

My sympathy went to her because I remember the feeling well.  I will never forget the first time I had a day to myself.  I was at a complete loss for things to do and after I tried reading for about 20 minutes I gave up and did housework.  Because I was a single Mum for many years I never took any time away from them after my husband left and I went on a two-day vacation when the oldest was 16.  I thought I’d go out of my mind the first day I was away.

The responses this young woman got were great.  Some were of the personal care variety.  They suggested things like reading a book, having a “loooong”bath,going back to bed, going for a manicure, a pedicure or a massage.  Some ideas got her out in nature to go for a walk or to the museum.   Others were a little more adventurous.  One suggested zip line and another the trampoline park.  My suggestions was to just breathe.

I have no idea what she is doing today but I hope she didn’t give in a do housework or bookwork for her business.

Hats off to all the Mums in the world who are taking their first “day off” today even though it’s only for 7 hours.  May you figure out how to care for yourself and enjoy the fleeting moments of freedom you will be able to give even more of yourself and love your families better because of that time.



About Peggy Guiler

You just never know what show up on my blog. As the name implies it is about the stuff of life just like Spilt Milk. Everyday events spark thought and contemplation. Special events in the community, the country or the world may strike a cord and get me talking. Sometimes it's about people in my life or circumstances, sometimes about my garden, sometimes about a book or a political issue. Always it's about something I am passionate about. In my business, River of Hope Enterprises (www.riverofhopeenterprises.com), I work as an "Certified Coach" (International Coach Federation), a trainer, consultant and speaker. and as a spiritual director. I also drive a school bus to keep the wolf from the door while I build my business. I love the kids on the bus (most of the time). My family is grown and I have three grandkids who thrill my heart but I don't get to see any of them very often. Circumstances of life have made "family" difficult. My son died by suicide at age 16 in 2000 and the strain on our family relationships since has been huge. Mental health is a field where I worked for almost 22 years and where I still do some consulting and training. That combined with my own battle with depression and my son's death weave together to form some of my greatest soap box items: suicide intervention, suicide bereavement and peer support in mental health are right on the top of my list. Social justice is an underlying passion. Keeping the wolf from the door as a single parent was full-time work and my career path as a journalists was augmented with cleaning contracts, cooking, retail clerk, and bartending. I have known hard work and am grateful for the experience and perspective it has given me. A firmly grounded faith and a passion for learning has now taken me toward a new field as a Spiritual Director and I am soon adding to that a license to marry people. As I move toward retirement I am very aware that I have to keep working so I chose to do things which will meet my modest financial needs and also my love of supporting people in their life journey. Woven into all of this is my love of writing. Trained as a Journalist, and having worked in the field as a freelance news writer for many years, I have a great love for writing. This blog is a new beginning for me. As I hone my skills and begin to form a daily discipline of writing I hope it will lead to more writing in the future.
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